Talking Divorce: A Torah-based guide for navigating and surviving difficult relationship decisions

Review\\n"This book is smart, clear and eye-opening. A must-read education for those who are either personally or professionally involved." —David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author and international expert on interpersonal relationships\\n"Zalman Goldstein's latest book, Talking Divorce, provides a wealth of practical and meaningful advice aimed at helping Jewish couples recognize relevant issues surrounding divorce. He takes you through the different stages of a changing family, from marital distress to divorce and co-parenting, helping the reader create a clearer sense of direction and control during a very challenging time in life. This book can spare you and your family much heartache and set you in a healthier direction." —M. Gary Neuman, L.M.H.C., New York Times bestselling author, creator of the NeumanMethod.com, and author of Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce the Sandcastles Way\\n"I've recently served as a Dayan in Jerusalem, where I met with some twenty couples who sought Gittin—the divorce process required by Torah law. Some couples were in predicaments whereby divorce was absolutely necessary. Most were in relationships which had deteriorated or which had never ripened in a mature manner. The rest were good people who were essentially compatible—or as I say in more psychological parlance, spouses who have compatible psychopathology. Why were they seeking divorce? Because they had never developed the tools for handling conflict and discontent. Lacking skills to communicate during times of strife and living in a world which once claimed the credo of "If it feels good, do it" but now marches beneath the banner of "If it doesn't feel good right now, you don't have to do it anymore," divorce has become a facile option rather than a last resort. Zalman Goldstein's newest book is a valuable resource for couples who have arrived at the last resort but are now ready to address their differences without rampant conflict; to sidestep communication breakdowns by foresightful planning; and to have a clear roadmap for traveling the intricate roads which couples and families must traverse in considering the process of divorce, and in considering the prospect of reconciliation. The chapters are readable and digestible, and the checklists are usable and generate clarity beyond the haze of hurt and misunderstanding which occupy mind and heart when husbands and wives are contemplating termination of marriage. I would recommend that couples make this volume their first resort before determining that they have reached the last resort. Talking Divorce also will enlighten those who deal with couples in professional capacities as therapists, attorneys, clergy, and friends and family of couples in crisis." —Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox, Ph.D., Forensic and Clinical Psychologist, Director of Crisis Intervention, Trauma and Bereavement department of Chai Lifeline; Professor, retired, adjunct graduate faculty, USC and CSPP; Associate Clinical Professor, retired, LLU School of Medicine; acclaimed author and lecturer\\n"Many couples in crisis approach the divorce process unprepared, often with catastrophic results. Emotions run high, and life-altering decisions are made without fully considering their true implications. Ending a marriage is never pleasant and being prepared is critical to the mental well-being of all parties. Zalman Goldstein's Talking Divorce is a practical and comprehensive compendium of issues to consider, and a must-read for those who are contemplating divorce." —David H. Rosmarin, Ph.D., ABPP, Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School, and founder of Center for Anxiety in New York\\n"With this book, Zalman Goldstein has successfully made order of what is intrinsically a very messy and adversarial process. I recall attending many sessions of a convention around thirty years ago, on the topic of Jewish family, marriage, and divorce. One gripping line by Rabbi Dr. Reuven Bulka—who was speaking about the acrimony

Publisher:

Two Lights Publishing

Pages:

303

Date Published:

2021